“My husband is very abusive but he behaves perfectly before others…What should I do?” – The Times of India
Anonymous question:
My husband is very abusive, but he behaves perfectly in front of strangers and family. I don’t want to make a show of our relationship in public but I want him to stop doing this. What should I do?
Poetic Advice: Glass Home
A house may not appear to be made of glassBut every home isWhat happens withinReflects withoutWe may not realise itBut the anger held withinWill translate into tiny cracksIn the walls of the glass homePeople’s odd staresWould act as rocksThe person who was once a part of this homeWhen they become detachedThey become an observerA part of the odd stares and the crowdThey are no longer looking at the world from inside outThey have already becomeAn outsider to the chaosYou have become that personThat outsiderDistance yourselfTill the glass breaksAnd keep a broom and dust pan readyAlso, an army of friendly supportersBut don’t feel bound to pick up the shardsIf you don’t have any protection handyOr one that will last
Explanation
There are times in life when our secrets grow too heavy to carry alone. That invisible weight is not ours alone to bear. It presses against the glass walls, visible to those who live with us. Loved ones may stay silent, believing their silence protects us. We may hide our struggles, hoping to avoid creating a scene. Yet in a tightly knit society, what remains unsaid often echoes louder than words. Once you recognise the weight, you can choose to carry it by yourself, but you don’t have to. You can wait until the pressure makes you want to punch through the walls, or you can reach out earlier. Your army of supporters already stands ready. All you have to do is call on them and protect what is sacred to you.Advice by: Intuitive RaniWriter, healer, and poetry therapist who transforms pain into emotional strength through use of intuitive storytelling.DisclaimerViews expressed above are the author’s own.
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